Found this article on Yahoo and was laughing my butt off!!!....I think each and everyone of us know someone who has one of the below (god forbid-combination of) quality (ies).I always had the 6th sense/Intuition to identify these kind of people. But never had a courage to voice out my feelings/thoughts about them (because being a kind person, deep down inside I always wished that they will change)Most of the time, These people are just disillusionised. I wish them good luck in surviving in this world....People will eventually read you, know your motives and eventually HATE you...pity pity...8 Toxic personalities to avoid
1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.
Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.
~~~Was a victim once....learned from it & grew from it2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."
Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.
~~~What they really need is two bitch slaps, one kick and one punch...and if they are still disillilusional, push them down the building.3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.
Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.
~~~I just want to live my own life!!! I don't want to spent my minutes & seconds listening to you sulk and rant...***sings***It Sucks to be you!!! It ssucks to be youuu!!!...4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.
Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well
.~~~Why take life sooo serious??? You'll grow old, boring and unwanted...5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.
Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.
~~~How nostalgic...Happened is high school...all I have to say is... No 21 year old from "that" high school I was from has achieved what I have...It all started from a DREAM & BURNING PASSION :-)6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.
Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.
~~~Possibly the most easiest toxic personality to read...7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.
Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
~~~Solution: Fight Fire with Fire or in chinese "Lei cho sap em, Ngo cho sap sei"(or something along that lines la)... they just need some tunjuk ajar...8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.
Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.
~~~It makes you sooo tired...It feels as if you have been squeeze dry of your sincere friendship!!! Known someone like this in college, was even an ex-best friend....ditched her....Never felt happier!!!All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.***This article is possibly written by some GwaiLoh....so I guess that these toxic characters are pretty "Universal"...Ok la....let me add some Malaysian Toxic characteristics which I have personally seen...Sorry to say la...90% of them are from boys school...But not all okay....I'm not stereotyping...I know some really nice, understanding guys from Boys school...What to do...they lack the social skills around the female kind.
But it makes me soooo soooo bloody angry! They are the type of guys that say things like "women should stay at home and bow down to us", "women are bad drivers", "what you know? you are a women", "We men are talking, you women go away"....etc etc....the list goes on & on....They SOOOO bloody deserve a kick from my 5 inch high heels/ballet pointe shoes at their groin. This is quiet common amongst asian men, I guess due to their mentality and what they've observe from their fathers at home. Sadly there are some women who are willing to be treated like that, due to negative mother influence.
Proud to say...I've changed some of those men...you just need to send them to the "SARAH LOW's school of good behaviourial gentlemens" XD
I'm not some kind of RADICAL FEMALE rights activist that thinks that women can DO everything that man can do...Well, we don't have an adam's apple, physically we are not a strong as men, we can't pee standing up (ok la....last time there was this plastic thing that was sold in pharmacies that women can use to pee standing up.....BUT don't you realise it is not sold anymore???...Women can't pee standing up afterall)
- The act cute man-killer slut
Really Sweet innocent looking female, !BEWARE! these are actually the biggest sluts...Why am I telling you these???Coz there are alot of vulnerable nice young men(like my brother) out there that needs waking up.
Rule of the game...Know a product before buying...How to know the product???Ask around for personal testimonials (from friends) & research background la...Dunggu...=_="
True story 1- a girl i know who is a part time model, really pretty & tall, sweet looking. Her deep dark secret...she has 4 "boyfriends" at any one time which she sleeps with. She even told me how she "successfully cheats on her BF's without them finding out...AND.....she has STD's...F*ck their lives (the boyfriends)...Thinking they got lucky...
True story 2-sweet innocent petite girl.....first impression she gives you is.....approachable, studious....DEEP DARK SECRET...she has had 2/3 abortions (I lost count)...she she might never ever get pregnant in the future...When I ask her why she does it "unprotected"...ANSWER: Coz use condoms hor, No feeling mah =_="...
-I REST MY CASE-
- The Cina VCD seller/Mat Rempit who tries to act posh, Speaks english with an accent (albeit wrong pronunciation) & wants to correct my In-Gu-Rish...
This one I damn 'beh song' loh!!! Inferiorty Complex I call it!!! Hello!!! Correct my english ah??? I get A1 one leh and I'm an Editor....somemore I speak England at home!!! You stoopid one ar???
The mat rempits/Cina VCD(now DVD liao...sudah high-tech) seller that goes stalking & mass messaging hot chicks on netwoking sites..."O hai!!! Can V be Fwenz???", "you are so beutifoo...can add me on msn?/give me your hp no?", "I am a 20/30/40/50/60 year old guy, very lonely, wanna make new fwenz...call me!" (1st of all, you think hot chick want you ar???somemore want us to call you....No wonder you are alone...even a girl with STD also still go after looks & $$$ la...) Soo Soo irritating!!!Stop flooding my inbox!!!
Somemore the ones from Kampong...wanna act you know what is the best wine...newest branded handbag.....Be humble la....I also dunno what is the best wine newest branded handbag,,,,very shame meh??? be yourself can boh???
Wow...This is the most I've written in a long time....Suddenly feel like sooo smart ***kembang***...Why am I sounding like one of the characters above???GOD save me!!!
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